tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post2961015526897284007..comments2024-02-05T05:15:04.759-08:00Comments on Wandering Scientist: HappyCloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-83180843811819816152015-10-01T06:52:34.752-07:002015-10-01T06:52:34.752-07:00With little bit of the post and updates this will ...With little bit of the post and updates this will be so easy and necessary for those of the ones who really been keen to watch their progress regarding their skills. <a href="http://www.homeworkhelpau.com/" rel="nofollow">assignment help</a>Nickole Dinardohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05435675622017105709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-38046251147533308402012-04-03T22:34:21.378-07:002012-04-03T22:34:21.378-07:00There are some mothers when they work at home they...There are some mothers when they work at home they get to experience a sense of purpose and satisfaction because they are with their family. To be a successful Mompreneur you should not lose sight of your “why.”<br /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.nymomsworld.com/" rel="nofollow">nyc moms</a>Ryan Phelpshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00250634564151617135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-50188393973376099892012-04-03T22:32:48.164-07:002012-04-03T22:32:48.164-07:00thanksthanksAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-5275374455912058242012-01-19T07:59:46.552-08:002012-01-19T07:59:46.552-08:00I think the choices aspect is important. I would l...I think the choices aspect is important. I would love to be a SAHM but I honestly do not have that choice - I keep meaning to blog about it, but I'm embarrassed. When you've made a choice you're happy with, whether it's to work or not or stay at home or not, it's a lot easier to be happy. The closest I had to being able to make a choice was being a WAHM for 2 years. Then the economy tanked and I had to get a "real job" and put the Babby in daycare. Not a choice for me, no matter how many sanctimonious bloggers out there seem to believe that you can stay home if you really want to no matter what. So I'm less than happy, but I also know I have the best possible WOHM situation for me and for that I am grateful.Mama Up!https://www.blogger.com/profile/16062563084376679862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-60026257226680739142011-04-04T06:46:06.829-07:002011-04-04T06:46:06.829-07:00Great post, Cloud, so true about the caveats you&#...Great post, Cloud, so true about the caveats you've outlined. I really think the mummy wars is about fighting over scraps, it is used as a distraction to keep us from being more unified as mothers.blue milkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341937205299573052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-82889035937289644182009-06-25T19:13:27.405-07:002009-06-25T19:13:27.405-07:00I love this post. Pretty much what you said is tru...I love this post. Pretty much what you said is true for me, except I'm in a different type of career. Still, my career area can be tough, depending on companies and projects. I used to travel a ton for business, work long and late hours if needed, and had some pretty stressful projects that left me completely exhausted. When I returned from maternity leave, I purposefully agreed to go to a project that wasn't run at a killer pace. The beauty of my company (which is constantly rated very highly in Working Mother's magazine) is that they promote work/life balance as very important and work with you to meet your needs. Throw in an awesome head honcho boss who is also a family man, and I know I've had it lucky.<br /><br />As for being happy as a WOHM, I think the biggest thing for me was really being in tune with myself and not letting outside pressures make me second guess myself. I would not be happy as a SAHM, or even a WAHM. I need to get out of the house. I need to interact face-to-face with other adults, especially in a problem-solving/analyst capacity. I am not happy staying at home all day with my kid(s) for days in a row, outside of 2-3 months of maternity leave. With the Pumpkin, I actually wanted to go back to work early, but had scheduled a week at the beach during my last week, so I toughed it out. I just know what is right for me, and therefore for my family. I'm a better mom when I'm happily working outside the home. <br /><br />I wish that everyone could realize what works best for them, could actually have the choice to do what works best for them, and not to second guess or question themselves due to outside influences. Every person is different and it should be fine to do what works best for yourself.caramamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02327695885346537321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-91596912131106278062009-06-22T14:55:42.872-07:002009-06-22T14:55:42.872-07:00@Flea- I certainly didn't mean to imply that a...@Flea- I certainly didn't mean to imply that all women in science have a good experience mixing science and motherhood. I was more musing about why mine has been good when other people haven't been so lucky. I hope that came across in the post.<br /><br />I really wonder how much of my happiness level comes down to money. This makes me sad and angry, and I have a lot more to think about before I can post anything coherent on that.<br /><br />I probably had an unusual grad school experience- but I had better health insurance then than I have ever had since. And my health care providers were right next to the building I worked in, instead of across town!<br /><br />I've wondered if I should add "timing of reproduction" into the things I got lucky with- the fact that I COULD time it, and the fact that the timing I happened to choose seems to have worked out well for me. However, I have friends who swear by their decisions to have kids in grad school or as post-docs, due to the flexible hours. I think a lot of that experience comes down to what sort of advisor you have, though. That, to me, is the real scary thing about having kids in grad school or during a postdoc- you're so much at the mercy of one other person, and you have so much invested in making that relationship work.<br /><br />I also know women who travel a lot or have odd schedules and somehow make motherhood work. I personally chose to change jobs rather than have any sort of significant amount of business travel- but I wasn't that attached to my old job and wanted to change for other reasons. One of the things I'm musing on for a follow up post is how creative Hubby and I have been in finding solutions to some of the problems that have come up with the work/parenting juggle- and how I'm just now learning to trust in that problem-solving creativity. I don't think all problems can be solved with a little creativity, but I know that when I was looking ahead to mixing career and parenthood, I didn't anticipate how good Hubby and I would be at finding solutions we could both be happy with for the problems that have come up. <br /><br />Anyway, I have a lot more to think about before I dare post any sort of advice for women looking to mix science and motherhood. But I did want to say that it CAN be done and you might even find yourself happy if you do it- that was a message I almost never heard when I was in grad school. <br /><br />And for the record, I totally consider archaeology a science!Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-54832544392300445122009-06-22T14:21:07.962-07:002009-06-22T14:21:07.962-07:00I've been thinking about this post for days. ...I've been thinking about this post for days. Most of my experience with motherhood and women scientists comes from academia, where it can be a different ballgame - often there's no money (if you're a student/post-doc), crap insurance, no leave policy, no HR department, you're terribly far from family (I heard a story of a women who left her infant with her parents in China), and the job isn't 9-5 (my husband as a master's student in engineering occasionally had experiments where he had to go in and titrate things every 6 hours for a week - and his main work is computer programming!) When I was in academia proper I was an archaeologist, and the two-career-two-location issue and the possibly 10 weeks overseas every summer issue were one of the daunting things about work-life balance even before we had kids (I left academia at 28, so children were a looming issue timewise but not an active plan at that point) - and archaeology is not even a science!<br /><br />That said, I do know women who've done academic science and parenthood and happily - I was on a panel for women in science at my old job with a powerhouse woman whose husband traveled for work 50% of the time, making her a frequent single parent and PhD student in a bench science. Her saving grace was his work made big bucks, so they could hire help. Another couple I know had twins as new post-docs! They must have had family financial support for the day care (our kid was in the same place, and it was $$), and have since left academia for a private research institute which is more life-friendly.<br /><br />I have two single, childless women friends who work in the pharmaceutical industry, and both of their jobs would be practically impossible with motherhood - one manages clinical trials and travels constantly, and the other is often at work until midnight every night for a couple of weeks when a big push is on. Yikes! One doesn't plan to have children, but the other would like to, some day, but knows her career path will have to change for that to happen.fleahttp://casperflea.livejournal.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-35044479988311199452009-06-19T05:11:04.383-07:002009-06-19T05:11:04.383-07:00This post itself makes me happy. I love that you&...This post itself makes me happy. I love that you're aware of the advantages you have, and that you've used them to engineer a life that's satisfying. Too often I feel that the blog world is awash in discontent — I don't begrudge <i>anyone</i> their story, but it's really nice to read one not only where the writer is happy, but where I get the sense that the happiness is coming from something firm instead of fleeting.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044616990895305984noreply@blogger.com