tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post393359823146246382..comments2024-02-05T05:15:04.759-08:00Comments on Wandering Scientist: Learning What WorksCloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-21852733235450119062015-04-25T11:00:34.193-07:002015-04-25T11:00:34.193-07:00It's so discouraging that I've internalize...It's so discouraging that I've internalized so much crap over the decades. NSF wants me to own my online persona in order to encourage younger women entering tech and I was scared of opening myself up for more harassment.badmomgoodmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11569728075698885020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-61215412666386140812015-04-24T15:50:09.223-07:002015-04-24T15:50:09.223-07:00Definitely watch it! Or listen to it while doing ...Definitely watch it! Or listen to it while doing something else (though it does have some pretty stunning graphs).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-38253153201618379102015-04-24T13:48:20.342-07:002015-04-24T13:48:20.342-07:00I have been meaning to watch that talk since you p...I have been meaning to watch that talk since you posted it. I agree, it is nice to see people recognizing that women aren't stupid or inept. We're just playing under different rules, even if we're on the same game board as the guys.Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-40635886439598496092015-04-24T13:47:11.748-07:002015-04-24T13:47:11.748-07:00Oh, yeah, now I remember that series! Thanks for t...Oh, yeah, now I remember that series! Thanks for the link.Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-75694640491164389152015-04-24T13:45:17.175-07:002015-04-24T13:45:17.175-07:00I fiddle with my rings when I'm uncomfortable ...I fiddle with my rings when I'm uncomfortable with the antagonism in the room, too! <br /><br />I also recently read Deborah Tannen's Argument Culture. That had a lot of good things in it that made me think. I'm going to read her Talking from 9 to 5, too, I think.Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-78235345817281976892015-04-24T13:31:21.207-07:002015-04-24T13:31:21.207-07:00A friend said that, when meetings get testy, she p...A friend said that, when meetings get testy, she plays with her MIT "rat" ring. It's actually their beaver mascot, but looks like a rat.<br /><br />A male friend said that he does the same. He works at a famously aggressive .com and he doesn't like to be alpha male.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-16565428434983550032015-04-24T13:28:26.481-07:002015-04-24T13:28:26.481-07:00I'm going to buy and read it, too. I'm a ...I'm going to buy and read it, too. I'm a big fan of Joan Williams' Unbending Gender book. <br /><br />http://www.amazon.com/Unbending-Gender-Family-Conflict-About/dp/0195147146/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8<br /><br />I wrote a series, inspired by Joan Williams' research and writing. I even met her in line at the airport, once.<br />http://badmomgoodmom.blogspot.com/search/label/Joan%20WilliamsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-80189332220837786872015-04-24T09:24:32.397-07:002015-04-24T09:24:32.397-07:00I remember recognizing your quitting suddenly was ...I remember recognizing your quitting suddenly was a move to preserve yourself, it was something I really wanted to do some years ago for somewhat similar reasons. Because of that, I advised a colleague, not too long ago, that it was far better to quit than to hang on for the sake of the few good people when the rest of the environment was so toxic that people were getting sick and they were reacting in really stressed ways. Revanchehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07293868300535734672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-59903394971008936602015-04-24T08:55:53.787-07:002015-04-24T08:55:53.787-07:00As I move from architect managed by others to arch...As I move from architect managed by others to architect managing others, this knowledge seems much more critical.<br /><br />Added to wish list. Thanks!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685590920604384987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-88535027122739822502015-04-23T18:26:15.717-07:002015-04-23T18:26:15.717-07:00I'm going to get this right away.
Early in m...I'm going to get this right away. <br /><br />Early in my first career, I read a few books for women in the workplace, and I remember one that advised things like throwing a pen on the table during a discussion. Much of the advice in that book seemed childishly aggressive, and I don't remember other specifics. My main memory is that it was a book full of advice that felt unnatural to me. I did get more from Why Good Girls Don't Get Ahead, But Gutsy Girls Do. It was a little hokey at times, but fit me better. TragicSandwichhttp://www.tragicsandwich.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-70956468859767371702015-04-23T18:17:03.468-07:002015-04-23T18:17:03.468-07:00It's on my "to-read" shelf waiting f...It's on my "to-read" shelf waiting for my brain to be able to handle non-fiction again (along with Scarcity... after I finish reading Work Flow for Stata). I have, though, read some of the original research that it's based on (and I've seen more research in the same vein-- that Lise Vesterlund talk on service work is just amazeballs) and I'm not sure whether to be happy or sad that Women Aren't Stupid. The economist in me thrills at the neatness of rationality (women are rational actors too, they just face different constraints!) while the fact that women do have to be better than men for realz just, you know, sucks. Stupid patriarchy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com