tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post8218427586655440855..comments2024-02-05T05:15:04.759-08:00Comments on Wandering Scientist: Suboptimal SpacingCloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-11611812243373518092012-07-18T09:26:26.826-07:002012-07-18T09:26:26.826-07:00I'm late to the party on this one - reading bl...I'm late to the party on this one - reading blogs has fallen by the wayside in my current state of "attack" by work, summer activities and poor child behavior. <br /><br />The 3-year old is in an "I can't" phase of not wanting to do anything for himself and the 5-year old seems to have lost all power to control herself or listen when I'm around. I'm hoping it is a combo of exciting summer fun plus anticipation of fall changes (kindergarten, etc)...but add in a few nights of solo parenting this week and the 3-year old's refusal to sleep before 9:30pm...and I am just BARELY holding it together.<br /><br />Thankfully, work should be less pressure filled in August and our calendar is less jam-packed then, too!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685590920604384987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-55067498801670742512012-07-07T08:59:16.654-07:002012-07-07T08:59:16.654-07:00Didn't mean to scare you! Once your older daug...Didn't mean to scare you! Once your older daughter gets past 3.5 it should be generally all good. Then things might get ugly again when the younger reaches 2.5. Rinse and repeat.hushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05532820460835325762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-70956182422429350692012-07-07T03:36:15.192-07:002012-07-07T03:36:15.192-07:00That's still our first line of defense with ou...That's still our first line of defense with our 5 year old. "Hey, you're being fussy, that's not like you, here have some food. Do you need a nap?" Usually it is the food. Yesterday morning he actually put himself to bed after swimming after being a fussy-butt and came out after an hour no longer being a fussy-butt, though he claims he did not sleep. (He'd had his sleep interrupted with a nightmare the night before.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-75782826627396021352012-07-06T21:56:39.313-07:002012-07-06T21:56:39.313-07:00Our 2.5 year spacing has mostly been pretty good. ...Our 2.5 year spacing has mostly been pretty good. But my goodness, the last week or so has been a challenge! They almost seem to be feeding off of each other's defiance. We'll have to get a bit more clever with how we respond, I think.Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-11465804552985920312012-07-06T21:55:23.709-07:002012-07-06T21:55:23.709-07:00I'm working on it! The fact that so many 20 so...I'm working on it! The fact that so many 20 somethings are scared by the career/parenthood thing is sad, and one of the things that bothers me the most about our current cultural narrative on motherhood in general and working motherhood in particular. But perhaps I shouldn't start ranting about that here!Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-86963876496557017892012-07-06T21:38:11.724-07:002012-07-06T21:38:11.724-07:00I'm putting my fingers in my ears and blissful...I'm putting my fingers in my ears and blissfully ignoring you all about 'suboptimal spacing' as my girls will be exactly 3 years apart and likely going through the bad parts at the same time too. Aaagh.<br /><br />2.5 is kicking our butts, BTW. It is getting slightly better, though and I think it's 20x worse when she's tired or hungry so we're getting smarter, albeit slowly.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-42710482653371578092012-07-06T09:36:58.930-07:002012-07-06T09:36:58.930-07:00I really hope you do the guest post for Revanche. ...I really hope you do the guest post for Revanche. I noticed that a long of younger women who are contemplating kids and career are already scared of the future balancing act. If I read through comments, mostly by other 20-something women, there seems to be a consensus that you can't do it "all". I think a more thorough discussion is needed -- defining "all" and not being scared by having a career and kids, etc.. and you're the perfect person to write it!oilandgarlichttp://oilandgarlic.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-11116007143571694022012-07-06T08:37:53.159-07:002012-07-06T08:37:53.159-07:00When I read your post title, I thought you were ta...When I read your post title, I thought you were talking about the "suboptimal spacing" of your kids' births - because that's actually the gripe I'm having with the universe right now. Mine are 23 months apart (4.5 and 2.5) and right now it is totally brutal. Like @Paola said about getting the crappy disequilibrium stages at the same time. I'm not a fan! So I totally feel you about the best laid plans and too many good things happening all.at.once making them not always feel so good. Must remember to take the long term view.hushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05532820460835325762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-29210157463817062552012-07-06T06:16:33.952-07:002012-07-06T06:16:33.952-07:00Understand completely. With summer, there have bee...Understand completely. With summer, there have been a lot of 4-day weeks for various reasons. I do fun things on the off days (water parks, multiple pool trips, etc.) but there is a bit of a stack-up upon return. And the days off aren't exactly restful with the little ones either. But at least they're cute!Laura Vanderkamhttp://www.lauravanderkam.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-70607342675374647752012-07-06T04:29:50.813-07:002012-07-06T04:29:50.813-07:00Good luck!Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-20800733167002636542012-07-06T00:25:20.587-07:002012-07-06T00:25:20.587-07:00Mine are almost exactly 2 years apart so we get th...Mine are almost exactly 2 years apart so we get the iffy stages at the same time (eg18 months, 3.5), and because of mix in personality/character, even the equilibrium stages are dodgy most of the time. In a small living the 'divide and conquer' option is futile.paolanoreply@blogger.com