tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post4655527648198154385..comments2024-02-05T05:15:04.759-08:00Comments on Wandering Scientist: Be Careful What You Wish ForCloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-10953429405232344782010-06-25T13:44:04.606-07:002010-06-25T13:44:04.606-07:00Glad you're feeling better! I can so sympathiz...Glad you're feeling better! I can so sympathize on the sleep freakout thing... Annika has always gone back and forth between being a slightly crappy sleeper, and a REALLY crappy sleeper. She's a couple months past 2, and still wakes up at night.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10763085299053200761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-28465783918725866912010-06-24T10:23:50.033-07:002010-06-24T10:23:50.033-07:00I also have Paid Time Off. I had to use all of it ...I also have Paid Time Off. I had to use all of it for maternity leave, and each month I accrue more days, they get eaten up by sick kids, doctor's appointments, and once an actual vacation. It's so frustrating!<br /><br />Sorry you were sick, Cloud! I hope you are feeling better, and I really hope that Petunia gets through the sleep issues quickly. <br /><br />Our 3 yo is also very frustrated with the baby getting into "her" toys. She is good about putting the ones he can't play with away in her room or up high. It's the ones that they should be sharing where the real problem lies for us right now. It's constantly, constantly explaining about sharing and "family" toys and taking turns and letting the other one play with this toy or that toy. I'm exhausted just thinking about it.caramamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02327695885346537321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-78205396160203061992010-06-23T21:06:11.506-07:002010-06-23T21:06:11.506-07:00@badmomgoodmom- all my time off is lumped into &qu...@badmomgoodmom- all my time off is lumped into "Paid Time Off", so no matter what I do, if I stay home with a sick kid, I eat into my vacation time.<br /><br />So yes, I'm at the mercy of my boss approving time off without pay for most actual vacations.<br /><br />This is one area where I miss my old consulting job. I charged hours, so on a day like today, I could usually manage to get a couple hours work done, and not burn an entire day. <br /><br />The "war" between working parents and some of our colleagues without kids makes me sad. It seems like a lot of the things us working parents want would actually be great for people without kids, too. For instance, I used the extremely flexible work hours I had at my previous employer more before I had kids. I would work extra for 9 of the 10 days in a pay period and take the 10th off (having already charged my 80 hours) and go for a long weekend without touching my PTO.Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-66151564535364407572010-06-23T19:26:31.963-07:002010-06-23T19:26:31.963-07:00OMG, I feel badly for you. Sleep troubles are the...OMG, I feel badly for you. Sleep troubles are the pits.<br /><br />One of my pet peeves is the lack of a mechanism to support parents going through these tough phases.<br /><br />For instance, my (generally progressive) workplace specifies that sick leave is for sick employees. If you are caring for sick family members, you must charge vacation hours. If you are caring for a very sick family member (and can document that), then you can charge no pay under the family leave act w/o loss of your other benefits.<br /><br />But, no pay, under CA law, must be taken in increments of 1 day. Most two-career couples taking care of sick children split the day. Thus, we have to burn up vacation time to care for sick kids.<br /><br />Then we burn through our vacation time, which we really need b/c we are doing two difficult jobs at once...<br /><br />Which leaves us using no pay for vacation, which is solely at the discretion of your manager. A sympathetic manager would let that slide, but there are really nasty ones, too. It shouldn't be so ad hoc and left to chance.<br /><br />And what do you mark on your time card when you just need to sleep in b/c you were up till 4AM with a sick kid?<br /><br />Childless coworkers have no idea...<br /><br />I am not asking for a handout. But there out to be a mechanism for us to take unpaid time off in flexible increments while we are performing an unpaid service to society.badmomgoodmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11569728075698885020noreply@blogger.com