tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post794207667835572740..comments2024-02-05T05:15:04.759-08:00Comments on Wandering Scientist: A Butterfly, Flapping its WingsCloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-58403440669835921752010-07-26T21:01:14.363-07:002010-07-26T21:01:14.363-07:00Thanks, @Autumn. Don't worry, I think you'...Thanks, @Autumn. Don't worry, I think you'll do fine with parenting when you decide to take it on.<br /><br />I didn't read the NY Times article because their parenting stuff always annoys me. But I think parents seem to hate parenting sometimes because a lot of it is hard work, but a lot of our cultural cues tell us that we should love every minute. That's just bunk. No one is going to love getting up in the middle of the night to care for a baby, or cleaning up when your kid gets sick, for example.Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-51779073492445850942010-07-26T08:08:38.381-07:002010-07-26T08:08:38.381-07:00Love your attitude. I read the NY Times article ab...Love your attitude. I read the NY Times article about <a href="http://nymag.com/news/features/67024/" rel="nofollow">Why Parents Hate Parenting</a>, and one of the reasons they give is that people are having kids later in life, so they know what they are sacrificing. I have always believed it's better (for me) to wait to have kids so that I have time to focus on me and what I want out of life. I didn't want to resent a child for missed opportunities. Thus, I was rather surprised to read this theory that I might feel like I'm missing out on more opportunities the longer I wait. But I think it boils down to attitude: if you can't focus on the advantages of your situation, you're never going to be happy.<br /><br />Anyway, I love hearing that you are happy.Autumnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14150617283056545848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-72578606845603390592010-07-23T15:32:52.391-07:002010-07-23T15:32:52.391-07:00@zenmoo- Ha! My Hubby has the same go, go go tende...@zenmoo- Ha! My Hubby has the same go, go go tendencies when on vacation. I wonder if that is a Kiwi thing? It is hard to believe that it is, since their traditional vacation involves renting a beat up beach house and hanging out on the beach.<br /><br />But then, there is that whole "up a mountain, down a beer" mentality.<br /><br />And maybe they feel like they should really SEE everything whenever they leave their country, since they are so far from everywhere else.Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-49497305086001803532010-07-22T04:12:27.830-07:002010-07-22T04:12:27.830-07:00beautiful!
I think the key was your idea of "...beautiful!<br /><br />I think the key was your idea of "wonder."<br /><br />It seems the moment wonder leaves our lives whether it is pre- or post- kids it's like we have died or are wasting our lives. I met plenty of adults without kids who never felt "the joy of being" so kids cannot be blamed for robbing us of the time to enjoy life... <br /><br />And whatever we need to do to remind ourselves to be amazed (going to Asia!! so cool!) or watching a cloud go by or listening to a child tell a story, whatever it takes, we/our lives become richer (even if we are sleep-deprived and buried under a pile of soiled clothes !!! ha!!).geeks in romehttp://www.geeksinrome.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-68158803204879040702010-07-20T21:36:46.700-07:002010-07-20T21:36:46.700-07:00@Cloud - that was a lovely post. And I'm kind ...@Cloud - that was a lovely post. And I'm kind of glad it featured Malaysia. I lived there for 9 years ( age 5 to 14) - for me it's a place that is so mixed up with the nostalgia of childhood I have a feeling of missing the place mixed up with missing the time. But mostly I miss the food! <br /><br />@hush - I really don't think that travelling is best before OR after kids - just different. For me, so many of our pre-kid trips over the last 4 years were emotionally tainted. Our response every time I had a miscarriage or we had to take a break from trying to get pregnant was to book a child unfriendly holiday (skiing in Japan, hiking in NZ, trekking in Nepal, visiting Angkor Wat - although we had to change our plans on that trip as I got pregnant and was not going to take the chance on the Cambodian health system at 12 weeks preg!) I kept telling my husband that it was perfectly possible to travel with kids - my parents took the 4 of us kids everywhere from Europe to Lebanon to Thailand. He didn't seem convinced - but then he was asked to be groomsman for one of his best friends. In Samoa - 11 weeks after our baby was due. So we sucked up our new parent courage and went. And it was magic. I had my moment of wonder floating in the ocean, thinking how good life was at that instant, knowing my husband and baby were back in the room napping and I was lounging in a warm tropical lagoon! (I have to admit, I like the way kids force you to slow down while travelling - I need something to counter act the go go go tendencies of my lovely husband!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-58846559914732390592010-07-20T09:48:40.678-07:002010-07-20T09:48:40.678-07:00Great post. I agree totally. We shouldn't wish...Great post. I agree totally. We shouldn't wish away today, and the best time for any hope of traveling extensively is before kids.hushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05532820460835325762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-70012908557186657242010-07-20T09:06:42.998-07:002010-07-20T09:06:42.998-07:00That last paragraph is just perfect. I had one of ...That last paragraph is just perfect. I had one of those moments this past weekend - I was the parent in charge of watching the gang of little girls playing down by the lake. I really really wanted to be up at the cottage talking with the friends I hadn't seen in years, and instead I was stuck in this reclining chair, under a tree, by the lake, watching three little girls having an absolute blast playing with buckets of water and paintbrushes...why on earth was I wishing to be anywhere else? So I took a deep breath, and started actually enjoying myself :)Today Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03583682201977382593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-91235809260859615852010-07-19T09:58:05.234-07:002010-07-19T09:58:05.234-07:00Wow, what a lovely post. Beautiful words. I'...Wow, what a lovely post. Beautiful words. I'm on the other side of the fence, but I can see that we both made sacrifices...<br /><br />Its great to hear words from someone who is honest enough to acknowledge that they have lost something in becoming a parent, even though you have gained so much.Jennywennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11830704259091240700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-67261701130021655332010-07-19T08:57:43.483-07:002010-07-19T08:57:43.483-07:00Can I just say ditto to this entire post? Except m...Can I just say ditto to this entire post? Except my "butterfly" moment would be something from my time in Europe, and not with a butterfly. But everything else, especially the whole sentiment. Yes. Yes. Yes.caramamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02327695885346537321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29235839.post-4214214160838397812010-07-18T23:14:03.705-07:002010-07-18T23:14:03.705-07:00This is just a lovely post, summing up so much of ...This is just a lovely post, summing up so much of the only real loss I feel has occurred with my becoming a parent. But, unlike many of the places I've visited, I can remember pre-parenthood wistfully without ever really wanting to go back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com